b'Like everyone else, life throws us many curves, and as long as we keep looking and moving forward, hope-fully we make it out a more enlightened and stronger person. The other question was how I wanted to be remem-by Deborah Jones Finotti,bered, thats a tough one, I could type page after page Advertising Representative, Focus on Scugog of a lot of gibberish on how wonderful I am, but that wouldnt be true.The most important people to me are family, friends Last year I talked about my parents for RemembranceI have thought at times, I wish I could go back andand friends that are family, and that encompasses a lot Day, my Dad was an ocer in the Canadian Merchantrethink a decision or do something di erently, but myof people.Marines and my Mum was a WAAF Womens AuxiliaryDad had a philosophy, to never wish your life away, itsI want people to know that I loved strong, and had Air Force in Britain. This year all I will say is I am veryokay to look back and re ect on life, but learn from theno boundaries where love was concerned, and they knew proud of my parents, not just for their service but beingmistakes and keep moving forward. that I could walk in their shoes and could respect both the outstanding people, they were. I think life is a choice and by that, I mean how weviews. I may not agree with you, however, I could agree Which brings this around to a question I was askedchoose to live it.I wake up and tell myself what myto disagree, and still show respect. To be seen as a giving recently. day is going to look like.I choose to wake up smiling,person, sometimes to my own detriment. I could admit I I was asked what life meant to me and how I wouldI choose the mood and tone of my day, I choose howwas wrong when I was. wantpeopletoremembermeafterIwasgone.MyI will react to forces that are either for or against me, IMost of all I want to be remembered at how muchthoughtwasImnotcheckingoutyet,thenIchoose the energy Im going to give, I choose the waylove I have for my husband, daughters, sons-in-law andrst thought about my parents and what they instilled in me.people will speak to me, I choose to set boundaries, Igrandchildren, my family and friends, and the total joy I Hopefully I have carried those traits over to my life andchoose to start every day with purpose and intentionhave in their presence.instilled these values in our children.and that sets the day for me.Please dont think thisOn a lighter note, I also know I will be remembered As I get older, or as my daughters tell me in my ad- is always easy, it takes willingness, accountability and for my addiction to wearing scarves, the love for wearing vancing years, I truly have more respect for life.I have a lot of hard work.No one is coming to do it for you.navy blue and ironing my pillowcases and tea towels. always thought it is such a shame that we have to ageNo one!!! However, everyone has his or her quirks.while our children mature, sometimes I wish life wouldYou will notice that last paragraph has twelve Is inWouldnt it be nice to be so completely yourself that just slow down, but somehow it seems to be going byit, because it is all about me and how I choose to liveeveryone feels safe to be themselves too? Something to faster than I want it to. my life.think about!!!This article was not meant to be a downer but a re-minder on this Remembrance Day of how lucky we are to be able to breath every single day and how we choose to In Memory of Ourparticipate in our own life.Please be kind to people, because you never think that Fallen Heroes the last time, will be the last time.You think there will be more.We think we have forever, but we dont.DeborahAs a footnote, my four-legged Latin Lover, Max, hasaskedmetoshow everyoneaphotoItook OVERRIDGEspecializes in:ofhim,(hesteppedin and wrote my article last Gas, Wood & Electricmonth.)He did go on a Fireplaces bit much about how I em-Canadian Made Furnaces barrassedhimwithmy Christine && ACs bucket and spade when I Terry Vos Quality BBQs & Accessories follow him out to do his morning ritual. He also Now Also in Uxbridge: 113 Main Streetmentioned how he seeks North, Uxbridge, L9P 1C7 (905)-852-0715 meoutwheneverIset foot in the washroom to& OPERATED B Come in and see for yourself!Y prove a point. This is him NEDWO905-985-0715 just standing there wait-S YOURURNEIGHBO ingpatiently.Itseems 1893 Scugog Street, Port Perry 170 Casimir St., Port Perry he doesnt want to miss www.yourindependentgrocer.ca Proudly Serving Port Perry & Uxbridge For Over 30 Years!anything exciting.24 FOCUS - NOVEMBER 2021'