b'make the situation more bearable for all involved. MESSAGE LOUDDISTANCE SOCIALLYDying in real life is not like on TV, she commented.AND CLEAR BUY LOCALLYIt can be a long process. And sometimes it is not pretty. It is helpful for the family to know the steps and what toSUPPORT expect at di erent stages of dying. The people who areLOCALleft behind may also need support after. BUSINESSESTo continue to be of assistance to a family who hasTAKE OUTDeath Doula, Kelly Lyon lost a loved one, Kelly took The Angel Ladies PastoralORDERChaplain program so she can ociate at funeral services. TAKE OUTKelly recognizes the great need for the new hospice inOR USEPort Perry, but she pointed out that sometimes there areDELIVERYnever enough palliative care beds, and thats where theDELIVERY SERVICESSupport and TLCservices of a death doula can be the answer. Like a birth doula, a death doula doesnt do it for the for Clients and their Grieving Families money. We do it for the love, Kelly said. Her email ad-dress is loveliveson@mail.com because, Kelly pointed out, love never dies. You may also contact her at 905-914-6863.This story idea came to us from Kellys son Travis Fortnum, who is very proud of his mothers accom-Traditionally, when we think of doulas, we think of peopleplishments. Kelly originally raised her boys, Travis andTrophies, Awards,who are trained to help with the process of birthing a baby.Alex, in Blackstock, and then they moved into Port Perry.Corporate PromotionsEmbroideryGraphic DesignNow there are also death doulas, which provide support toFor many years, she was a single mom. Travis pointed out Engraving Screen Printingtheir dying client, and their entire family.that in recent history, his mom became an empty nesterPineridge Impressand her dear mother died, but there was aWe introduced the Sasquatch905-985-2839silver lining: Her motivation to help others.of St Christopher last month 135 North Port Road, Last October, Kelly Lyon of Portindividual clients. For something good to come out of it, thatsand this month, he has anotherPort PerryPerrytookanintensiveweeklongKellys priority will always be herincredible, he feels. message for those driving by,www.pineridgeimpress.cacourse to earn her certi cation as aclient, the person who is in the pro- be safe!Your Name is Our Businessdeath doula. She was inspired to pur- cess of dying. Its important to haveBy Lynn Campbell, Focus on Scugog (Photo courtesy of Donna Duda)sue this path to help other people aftera checklist of her clients wishes, and the loss of her dear mother Marleneshare them with the family, who may who passed away in February of 2018overlook such details due to the stressWELCOME SPRING!This story idea came to us fromat the age of 86.withherwhensheof the situation. This also avoids theWillow Books Celebrate with our new, fresh Iwasthereproblem of making expensive emo-passed away, Kelly recalled. And ittional decisions, she added. and inspired options.was not an unhappy time. I wantedHere are some checklist examples: Kellys son Travis Fortnum,her to be surrounded by all the loveWouldtheclientprefertodieatNOWwho is very proud of his mothersthat she had in her life, and to experi- home? What preferences are there forWe Are Moving! OFFERINGaccomplishments. ence that love in death as well. Shefuneralarrangements?WhatwouldTAKE OUTKelly originally raised her boys,was the best mom in the world. they like to wear, or take into the cas-Travis and Alex, in Blackstock,Kelly googled death doulas andket? Cremation? Celebration of Life? AND found out that a course was o eredHopefully all of these importantDELIVVERYERYand then they moved into Port Perry.through Douglas College in Britishdecisions can be made while the clientDELISERVICEFor many years, she was aColumbia.Luckily,ateacherwasis cognitive, Kelly noted. My job isSsingle mom.travelling around Canada, so Kellyto make sure that the clients wishes Travis pointed out that in recentdidnt have to go that far for train- are followed. First and foremost, their ing.Itwasthebest$1000Ieverneeds must be met.history, his mom became an emptyspent, Kelly commented. She usedA death doula can make sure thatDont worry, we are nester and her dear mother died, but there was a silver lining:her vacation time to study to be apreferences and decisions are known,not going too far. PSYCHIC READINGSHer motivation to help others.death doula. to make life easier for the family. SheESENTFUTUREPAnaturallycompassionateper- can also coach and counsel relatives.PR A. ST. TEvery Tuesday 3pm - 9 pmSFor something good to come out of it, .thats incredible, he feels. 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